Today's post comes to you a little on the unconventional side. Indeed I am all about fashion + style, but another huge desire of my heart is to share with you lovelies the things that inspire me. That is why today I bring you a love story for the books [bear with me as it is quite lengthy, but worth it!].
All of us in some form or fashion have our own fairytale picture of the perfect love...a prince charming who will sweep us off our feet. Too often though, we sacrifice our perfect fairytale for something inferior to our wildest dreams. My past relationships are proof that I personally have struggled with staying in the wrong relationships for far too long because I could not seem to see that I deserved more. The truth is... we all deserve the BEST! But far too often we get caught up in what feels right or comforrtable in the moment. We are on a timeline, or get caught up in the emotions of another person, or are simply too comfortable to move. LADIES let me just remind you of something: You are beautiful + wonderful + deserve to be treated as a princess of the kingdom! You deserve truly the ultimate love story.
The love story of my best friend Nika [of Diwa Dollhouse] is so beautiful + eloquent + has impacted my life greatly. When I first met this beautiful soul, she was healing from a recent destructive relationship. Interestingly, I too had also just left an awful relationship. God truly put us in one another's lives to be one another's pillars of strength + encouragement when we needed it most. Through the course of the next year, we allowed God into various parts of our hearts to truly surgically remove the hurt + emotional ties that once bound us to our past. We focused on bettering ourselves + letting God show us exactly what kind of LOVE He has planned for us. It was not until one year later that I remember sitting down with Nika at an adorable NYC luncheonette called Cafe Minerva. Nika proceeded to tell me about a man [A MAN, I gasped!] she met whose first words were so eloquent + beautiful + SO God honoring that it left me stunned. Do these guys really exist? After a long conversation + even further messages between the two, Nika agreed to meet up with this mystery marvelous man. They shared their first date on my birthday [love!] + Nika was instantly swept away by this boldly strong + firmly God fearing man named Emeka. Their first interaction was linked by the following verse "I therefore urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. Be completely humble and gentle; be patient; bearing with one another in love." -Ephesians 4:1-2. From that moment forward I have watched their journey blossom into something intoxicatingly beautiful! I have physically witnessed Emeka chose Nika over + over. Despite hard circumstances or trials, Emeka always chooses LOVE over all. He is gentle + patient + allows Nika to feel just as she should: confident in the woman she is + even MORE beautiful because of her past. Now ladies, I must tell you something else that just blows my mind. Don't freak out but this is huge....! Emeka honors Nika in purity + will refuse to even enter her home unless someone else is present. I mean, WHAT KIND OF AN AWESOME MAN WOULD CHOSE TO RESPECT + HONOR A WOMAN LIKE THIS? Truly a man after God's own heart. I assure you, it is not impossible my loves, these men DO exist.
Not only this but I must also take a moment to commend Emeka for truly inputting himself into my life. Emeka knew it was important to Nika to be close to her friends + he made it a daily priority to get to know myself + her little sister [sweet Bianca]. I was honored to know that he wanted to get to know me. His respect + love for Nika extended past his own agendas + into the heart of what mattered in her soul. WHAT A GUY! Emeka countless times made gourmet dinner for us women from start to finishing, including the dishes, + has never once complained. He has given me incredible advice, but most of all He has showed me what a true God honoring man would look like in a relationship.
Ladies, I wanted to share all of this with you because I have experienced the pain that comes from staying in a relationship that may seem composed on the outside, but on the inside is tearing at the seams. I have personally been inspired watching Nika's journey of healing, restoration, + true love unfold through these last 2 years. Although the waters may seem bleak [do you feel like there is no one out there?], or you may be extremely comfortable with where you are [this can seem impossible to leave], or you may be hiding your crumbled up relationship + secretly gluing every piece together.... I PROMISE YOU, this is not how it has to be! There is hope + the promise of a beautiful perfect Godly love on the other side of it all. Stay patienct + alert + constantly following God's desires in our life. If you allow yourself the ability to open your eyes to something new, I assure you that only the best will be awaiting.
I was inspired by Nika's journey, + I hope you are too! I will leave you with this beautiful quote that Niks shared in her testimony of Emeka by the incredible Tim Keller.
“To be loved but not known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God. It is what we need more than anything. It liberates us from pretense, humbles us out of our self-righteousness, and fortifies us for any difficulty life can throw at us.” -Tim Keller
Bisous Bisous -K
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